BY DR. HERNANDO CHAVES
Dr. Chaves,
I’m a 36-year-old woman and am very happy in my relationship with my boyfriend. I wanted to ask you for some sex tips to help us out. First of all, I can reach orgasm from my clitoris and my G-spot, and our sex life is great. The tips are to help us with his slightly smaller sized penis (girth and length are both on the smaller side). It doesn’t hit my G-spot as much as I’d like when we have sex. Any advice on a position or something to help with hitting my G-spot. Oh, we also use G-spot toys too, but sometimes I just want it to happen when he’s inside me, too.
Thanks,
Sandra, Dallas, TX
That’s the kind of question a sexologist drools over, a purely pleasure-focused pregunta (means “question” in Spanish -- we teach it all here at AskMen). I appreciate you pointing out happiness can exist with a smaller sized partner. It’s a myth that a large penis equates to sexual satisfaction or relationship happiness.
You came to the right place for a few tips. Keep in mind, his penis and your vagina are unique. These tips will require you both to tinker with the position adjustment or angle and find the right combination to best hit your Grafenberg spot (Dr. Grafenberg put the “G” in G-spot).
Position No. 1: Doggy-style, or rear entry for the sexperts out there.
While taking it from behind, lower your head face down, below the height of your pelvis (aka head-in-the-pillow doggy-style). By doing this, your body will tilt its pelvis upward and make the G-spot more pronounced. He can penetrate you from behind and angle his penetrative thrusts slightly downward; he should be hitting your G-spot area. For an added bonus, keep your legs closed during this doggy-style position to increase the feeling of fullness inside you. He’ll like the tight feel, as well.
Position No. 2: Female superior or female on top.
Why a G-spot gem? She can position herself atop a penis and lean back. This will create added pressure on the anterior wall of the vagina (G-spot territory). His penis will put up a fight when being pulled in that direction, and the tug of war will be just what the sexologist ordered for her G-spot. As she thrusts and gyrates, she’ll notice the benefits.
Position No. 3: Missionary, or male superior.
Think of this as a modified missionary position where she raises her pelvis upward to allow for deeper penetration and better access to the G-spot. It’s best to use a pillow or two beneath her pelvis/lower back. It also helps for her to pull her knees closer to her chest or ankles closer to her ears. I know it sounds like I’m scripting a porno, but this actually helps. Lastly, his thrusting and strokes will purposely aim to put pressure on her anterior, upper vaginal wall.
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